Do you have your dream life all figured out? Where do you see yourself in five years? Aah, the dreaded question! Most of us don’t even dare to speak out about what we really want. We’ve been told all our lives that we should stay humble and be grateful for what we already have. And although that’s very true, I also see the benefits of dreaming big. I, for example, see myself lying on a beach with a cosmopolitan in five years. Want to join me? Then stay tuned for my 3 big life pillars that will help you create your dream life!
1) Be fearless
Live your life without fear! That’s the first big life pillar I want to share with you. For many people it’s difficult to practice, yet it is very essential. And let me tell you why.
Let’s go back to the roots of being afraid in this context. It’s not so much about the failure itself. It’s more about trying something and then regrettably failing. It’s normal you want to protect yourself by not starting a business, for example. But when you’re afraid of failing and miss out on opportunities because of it, you are held back in life. And that my dear friend, is a bummer because you probably want to grow. Am I right? If perfectionism is one of your downfalls, I’m happy to help you slay that dragon. Read all about it here.
Unfortunately, in Europe there is a strong tendency to be afraid of failing. It’s like a taboo and perceived as something bad. Meanwhile, our American friends have a different mindset on that matter. There, failing is learning; you fall and get back up.
It’s all about taking responsibility for our own future and being proactive in our pursuit of success. But more about that later.
Let’s implement that approach and achieve our dream life!
2) Create your definition of success
If you thought the first life pillar was tough, you haven’t met this next one yet.
It’s all about being responsible for creating your own dream life. Many of us tend to believe that they can’t be held accountable for certain parts of their lives. Okay disclaimer, sometimes it is true. If you’re sick for example. But I’m talking more about the actions we can take ourselves to create a change.
In life it’s not about the things that happen to us, but it’s about us reacting to those events. For instance, I used to blame my mom for a lot of things and used it as an excuse to not do things. But later on, I realized I’m responsible for my own life and I can work towards my dream life (even with my scars).
You can’t move forward if you keep certain feelings and blame others for feeling that way. You grow when you decide to take full responsibility and shift your mindset.
Another way to get to your own version of success is to be proactive. This topic found its way to me through the book ‘The Seven Habits Of Highly Effective People” by Stephen R. Covey.
It’s better to be proactive than reactive. Let’s start with a little example. This woman shared on Twitter that she was invited to her old highschool to give a speech. I was thinking that I would love to do that as well, but I never received an invitation from my highschool. But then I thought… Why do I need to wait for one if I could contact the school and propose this idea myself? I CAN DO IT MYSELF!
It’s the same for connecting with clients, I don’t have to wait for them to come to me. I can contact them instead!
There are two important statements I want to make. The first one is that success is ever changing. It’s not something that will be the same forever. For instance, when I was a student, I had a completely different perception of success. It changes for yourself, but you also need to keep in mind that other people perceive it differently as well. Beautiful houses, big cars and luxurious clothes can shout ‘success’ for me while you think you’re successful in life when you work only 2 days a week. You see? The definition of success is subjective and it’s necessary be aware of that.
3) Be flexible and adaptable
My last message today is: be flexible and adaptable! Because *surprise surprise*, life can get dirty sometimes and so does business. You can jump on a train and maybe it was the wrong one but that’s fine! You just need to be flexible and keep in mind that situations always change.
Change is a scary thing, for sure. But it is also an opportunity to improve the current situation. This is linked to what I was saying earlier about being afraid. You’re afraid of changes because with changes, also comes the unknown. Still, the outcome may be positive!
Let’s make a pact to start creating our dream life right now. And make some space in that pretty head of yours to remember the messages I gave you. Don’t be afraid, act and take full responsibility for your life. And don’t forget that situations change but that’s okay too. Just be flexible!
Use my Dream Life Guide to get more support and subscribe to the ‘Big Business Big Life livestream series’, a program I am very excited about and where I am happy to share with you how to build not only your dream business, but also your dream life.
I’ll see you there!